let’s just get right to it: the changing of seasons is the hardest time to reroot myself from that more more more mindset. nyfw started and i saw so many fall trends i love and immediately the list began to build in my head.
sweaters. booties. boots. over the knee? what color? do i need more jeans? probably. black jeans…should i get a pair with holes in the knees? wait but i also need flannels. and new tennis shoes. also how do i work a new wallet into the equation? OH WOW HAWAII. should i get more swimmies? sunglasses? what do i wear to walk in? also velvet. ooooh a velvet dress. also skirts. a plaid skirt? that sounds necessary. i could use another coat. for fall. and winter. also a hat. like a cute knit hat. but also new leggings for running. speaking of, i could use new headphones.
i mean W H A T. this changing of season and the way we are marketed at is disturbing. we don’t need anything. truly. most of us have more than enough. it’s been my new year’s resolution to reroot and it becomes hardest at these times of transition where everyone has a “fall 2017 to buy list” and “the 5 boots you can’t live without.”
and i’m like yo. let’s slow it dowwnnnnnnn. thousands of people have been evacuated from their homes in the last few weeks due to natural disasters and we think we need 12 new sweaters for fall? it seems like two extremes to me. let’s look at all the bounty we already have and count our blessings instead, mixing and matching new combos in our closets.
this mentality of need vs. want is something i have REALLY been challenging myself on lately. it mainly stems from my tight budget with a couple of big trips (mainly Hawaii!!!) up ahead.
but honestly, it also comes a lot from my time abroad. i still think about how much more clothing i brought FOR NINE MONTHS than my host sister had…in totality. it was so clear to me how they spent their money: on experiences. and how clear it was how i, as an American, spent my money: on materials.
it’s really easy to look around and think a want is a need as we go from summer to fall. what i would challenge you to think about is that we already have SO much. yes, i would love these sunglasses, i had to return this sweater to pay for a boat trip in Hawaii and i really freaking would love to buy a new pair of skinny jeans.
but here’s the thing: i get to choose. i have enough money that i GET to choose how to spend it. i am not broke. that’s borderline insulting. i have a roof over my head and i have groceries in my fridge and occasionally i get to go on some crazy trip.
i am reminded everyday when i turn on the news and see those with nothing how privileged i am to be able to choose Hawaii over lunch at Chipotle, a deposit for a trip to the Holy Land next spring over a pair of Free People shoes. this choice is a privilege that many would dream of.
i think the instant i forget that i have a choice and i confuse my wants as needs is when i slip into a dangerous mindset that more is better and that i have less than everyone else.
when in reality, i have so much. and all i need.
this dress will soon be worn with my white Superga’s and i’ll throw a sweater thrown over it as the air becomes brisk. and today i mixed an old top with a pair of linen pants. and i will wear my jeans for oooonnneeeee more season before they head out the door. because what i’m realizing is that the more i take my identity from the top list of fall blouses I MUST HAVE this season, the more content i feel and less attached to my money.
i love shopping. i love styling outfits and changing trends and looking at what’s new every fashion week. i mean, that’s part of the reason i blog here! but it can become addictive. so i am just in a season of training my heart to see what i have. and if one day i have more flexibility in my budget, i’ll know when to stop, see the blessings present and give my money to those who need it.